>After some thought and consideration, I hereby give anyone reading my blog permission to look and see what your kid is doing on the internet. And while you’re there look around and see what their friends are doing too.
Earlier this week, Newsweek carried this article: http://www.newsweek.com/id/177959 (And comcast carried this related article: http://www.comcast.net/articles/news-health/20090105/MED.MySpace.Safety/). What these articles are saying is what I’ve been seeing and saying for months now. Parents have lost their way. We don’t know anymore how much “privacy” we’re supposed to respect.
While I’m still willing to go along with the idea that sneaking under the mattress and getting a child’s private diary out to read might be stepping over the line, going online and seeing what they are clearly and loudly telling the whole world isn’t.
It should come as no surprise that teenagers are being wildly indiscreet on myspace. Everybody knows that. Some parents think the way around this is to forbid myspace altogether. Good luck with that. After working directly as a youth mentor and youth group teacher I can say with some authority that forbidding myspace isn’t that easy and doesn’t work very well. Kids can access myspace from their friend’s house, the public library, and even from the classroom.
Every kid I’ve known PERSONALLY whose parents have forbidden myspace as had a secret account that their parent didn’t know about. Does that mean your kid does? No. It means that I’ve stumbled on a few secret accounts though and I’ve had kids admit to me that they have secret accounts.
My point? Don’t assume that your kid doesn’t have a myspace account just because you’ve forbidden it. In fact, don’t assume anything. Go look. And while you’re there check out their friend’s pages. You have my permission.